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How To Know Who We Really Are
By Kevin L. Baker
Have you ever felt like you didn't know who you really are? I
have felt this way when I was young and figuring out who I was. "Finding
yourself" and having an identity crisis were common back then. I really do
not hear much talk like that these days. Then, at midlife, everything I thought
was stable crumbled, even though I had done everything possible to have a
stable marriage, family, and career. Lesson: Some things you just cannot
control.
I got married again, and had three more children. A new
beginning, a new country, a new family, and continued growth as a business
leader. That last one took some adjustment to learn the nuances of
international business.
I
believe one of the most important questions—perhaps the most
important—is “Who am I? This is the core question we all eventually ask.
I imagine this particular question has been with human
beings since conscious awareness first appeared in the minds of our most
ancient ancestors. A long time ago, a wise person told me you see who a person
really is when they are under stress. Another wise person, Jim Selman, came up
with an idea that we can know ourselves in five basic relationships.
I am my relationship with
myself (my inner conversation).
I am my relationship with
other people.
I am my relationship with
circumstances.
I am my relationship with
time.
I am my relationship with
whatever is beyond my understanding (a.k.a. the mystery of existence).
At one
point in my life, I didn’t know who I was/am. I was lost and wandering through
time searching for purpose, identity, meaning, and what I should do with my
life. I was married at a young age and had my first child at 21. I was a family
man. Husband. Dad. At that time, when I thought of who I was,
I mostly found my identity in being a family man. My confidence, my behaviours,
values and priorities changed when I got married and had children.
I was
also working in business by day because being a clergyman doesn’t always pay
the bills. I had grown up the son of an entrepreneur who started his own
business. I was highly entrepreneurial and started two non-profits, then two
businesses. So while I was raising four children, I worked in business by
day moving up the ladder through middle management to senior management, and
working in my non-profit labour of love work.
In our
twenties, many of us try a lot of things, and then narrow it down to something
that we think is what we are meant to be and do in life. When we get
there, we can think, I am that. Man of us at one time will think, “I am my
career.” When we do, everything from my confidence and my behaviors to my
values and priorities revolve around that belief. How many times do you meet
people, and they ask, “What do you do?” In that question, people might
think of who you are as what you do. Who we are is much more than what we
do, isn’t it?
At
twenty two, I had started a college education at Houghton College. However,
balancing the class load with work and family caused me to pause. I have often
repeated that scenario doing many things all at once.
Two
years later, I moved from New York to Missouri and restarted my quest for
education at what is now Evangel University in Springfield. I decided to go to
university to learn how to think. If you read my writing for awhile,
you will learn I read, I think, and I write about it. I attended a seminary to
study theology and philosophy. Looking back, that degree did not have had the
highest probability of a sunstantial return on investment. One day, I will tell
you about the Diamond-Water Paradox and show you why people who want to help
people never get paid well. I did not think like about ROI on education back
then. I did not look at the value of a university education as an outlay of an
initial outlay of a cash investment that would generate future cash flows. I
developed that outlook when I got an MBA and moved from an idealist to a
realist financially.
My
liberal arts and divinity education, though, prepared me well for what was
ahead. Philosophy taught me how to think and live a good life. Divinity taught
me the about the nature of reality, objective moral truth, how to live a holy
life, hermeneutics (the science of interpreting literature), ancient Greek
language, public speaking, writing, and much more.
All of those skills have served me well in my life of founding non-profits, businesses, and executive life in businesses. Later, as I mentioned, I added a Masters of Business Administration (MBA) degree to my Bachelor of Arts. These two degrees provided me a great starter toolbox of capabilities to build a life and vocation with.
Once We Know Purpose, We Start To Have Peace
I often
translate to people outside of faith that clergy are life coaches, spiritual
advisors, community organisers and builders, and they connect people to one
another and the mystery of life.
My
inner and spiritual life development told me at that point in time that I was
supremely loved. I didn’t have to strive for approval like I did as a teen and
twenty something. I didn’t have to please people,or feel the hurt of
rejection. My search for significance ended. I was significant
because one version of me was created.
Personally,
I was accepted just as I am, and I experienced peace. Little did I know this
was laying the groundwork for something larger that would come down the road.
As I had a sense of purpose, in my thirties I was accomplishing and achieving,
and still finding meaning in what I do, more than who I am.
The
whole concept of human doing and human being began emerging. We are much more
than our achievements. I made many good choices, and also some bad choices
through the years. That is how you gain knowledge, experience, and good
judgment. Trial and error plays a part in life, as does learning from
others–trusted elders, mentors, coaches, professors, and friends.
With each
new declaration or understanding of myself came new interpretations of what I
had learned or experienced in my life up to then, as well as new insights and
possibilities. Today, I have another answer about who I am. It is the
understanding that comes from a lived life.
I think
many of you are searching for an answer to the question, “Who am I?” Now, in
later midlife, my answer to who I am is one which I believe, while not
definitive, can be universally empowering. It is obviously not the only
interpretation or “truth” about who we are.
The Five Relationships That Define Who
We Are
I believe we are at the core defined by our relationships. I learned
this concept from Jim Selman, an executive coach and writer who has impacted my
life. With his principles as a foundation, I have developed my own thought on
how to flourish in life by truly knowing who we are.
I am my relationship with myself (my inner conversation).
There is a continuous
conversation going on in everyone’s head. Have you noticed you spend alot of
time, energy, and attention having a talk about meaningless, unimportant
matters inside your own head? This conversation goes on from the moment of
waking until falling asleep. What is the inner conversation?
It is the process of
asking yourself questions and answering them. It is the process of repeating
words and thoughts in the mind. It is the little voice in your head that
comments on your life, circumstances and situations, and on other people. Our
self-talk can be cheerful and supportive or negative and self-defeating.
Self-talk can be
beneficial when it’s positive, calming fears and bolstering confidence.
Human nature, unfortunately, is prone to negative self-talk, including sweeping
assertions like “I can’t do anything right” or “I’m a complete failure."
For others, their self talk is full of grandiose ideas about themselves!
Our inner dialogue
continues while working, studying, reading, watching TV, talking, walking and
eating. There is a constant activity of judging of people, commenting on what
is going on, planning, desires, gossiping, and conducting mental conversations
with people you know or don’t know. These inner talks create a snowball effect.
The more you conduct them, the more you become chained to them, unable to stop
them. That is why healthy inner dialogue forms our relationship with
ourself.
Our relationship to our inner thoughts and talk is part of who we think we
are.
So, is inner speech just
thinking? Thinking means everything the mind does. A certain category of
thinking that we call verbal thinking, inner speech, the stuff that we do in words.
When emotions are experienced in our self talk, more power, energy and
attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior,
judgment and general performance of our outer self.
On many occasions, the
inner dialogue is negative, and strengthens any negative attitude or behavior.
Sometimes, it is a dialogue with ourselves, and sometimes, it is just a
monologue. Most people do not have enough faith in themselves and in their
abilities, and therefore, they allow their mind to engage in negative inner
dialogues.
How To Silence The Inner Critical Voice
The process and effects of these inner conversations are similar to repeating affirmations. Constant thinking about the same subject, affects the subconscious mind, which consequently, accepts these thoughts and words and acts on them. This is our relationship with ourselves in our self talk.
Negative inner dialogues
create negative results, and positive inner dialogues create positive results.
That’s why you should switch to positive self talk. It’s simple. If you fill
your mind with negative dialogues, you start expecting negative results, lose
motivation and avoid taking action. On the other hand, if you keep conducting
positive dialogues, you become a more positive person, seek opportunities and
take action.
Many of us have had to deal with the voice inside that drags us down. Every human being possesses one of those inner voices to question, doubt, and challenge their dreams, aspirations, and sense of self. It’s a survival mechanism our ancestors needed to keep them safe from wild animals or big natural disasters, but in modern-day society this voice has evolved into this untamed inner beast that can often encourage us to shy away from greatness.
But how can we step away from those negative patterns and turn our inner dialogue around? If we’d never speak to a friend in such derogatory ways, we should certainly not be speaking to ourselves like that either, so how do we take back control and learn to quiet the inner critic down?
Drawing upon my divinity edcuation, the ancients
wisdom of Job says, "If only you could be silent! That’s the wisest thing
you could do." Some of you know I ran the business affairs of a Catholic
monastery for ten years. The Rule of St. Benedict requires living by the work
of one’s hands, not by donations. In the monastery, I learned to practice
silence, and think deeply with a clear mind. The teachings of John Cassian,
Thomas Merton, and others taught me to be still and listen.
LEARN TO TO GRATEFUL
Fix your thoughts on what is true, and
honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things
that are excellent and worthy of praise. Being thankful and grateful re-orients
us and combats anxiety. Try repeating the statement, I am so
grateful for _____, By doing this we create positive momentum in our
internal dialogue. Focusing on what’s good or uplifting in your life also
conditions you to stay vigilant in looking for more of the same
gratitude-worthy experiences to come into your life—or as the saying goes, where
attention goes, energy flows.
LEARN TO FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Negativity
is easy, and it is everywhere. Our brain has a negativity
bias—an actual tendency to notice negative situations and events more
easily than positive ones. We inherited this neurological artifact from
our ancient ancestors who, due to their constant survival mentality, had to
always be on the lookout for danger or anything that would put their lives at
risk.
Negative
energy can be contagious and pollute the internal dialogue with fear, anger,
and other dense mental states. While we can’t avoid all negativity, being consciously
aware of refocusing our attention away from the negative and toward the good can have a powerful effect on our internal
dialogue.
Moving
to a new country caused me to discover that my controlled life back in the USA
was more predictable which caused me to not worry about survival.
When I went through what I call my period of great sadness and loss, my inner
dialogue became distressed leaving everything familiar into the unknown.
Immigration. No one knowing me. No work network. I still have to take one
day at a time and fighting negativity helps me to enter peace.
FIRM UP THROUGH THE POWER OF MENTAL EXERCISE
Positive
self-talk statements that can help to reprogram your subconscious mind and
internal dialogue toward a more constructive mental environment. To
“affirm” means to make firm that which you wish to be true or
experience. Affirmations help us replace our old, stale, or obsolete
mental commentary with new and more inspiring ideas. With regular
practice and exercise, we learn to keep your attention on what you we want
rather than what you don’t.
LEARN TO LIVE A LIFE OF PURE
SPEECH AND BEHAVIOUR
When you
consciously choose to practice impeccable speech and behavior, your internal
dialogue will automatically become more positive and refined. Being
impeccable means behaving in accordance with the highest standards of
propriety. In essence, it means being unimpeachable and without fault.
This can be a tall order and while none of us are perfect, we can continually
aspire to carry the spirit of impeccability within us, refraining from anything
that could be potentially considered hurtful to others.
LIVE OUT OF OUR TRUE NATURE
One of
the challenges of being an executive in business is the politics and cut throat
egotistical environment many business people cultivate. It makes me take
on what I think of as my lower nature to be in the jungle. It becomes
very easy to lose ourselves and forget our true nature as those who a born to
thrive and have an unbounded spirit. We feel localized in the
world of positions and possessions, roles and titles. However, this is not
who we really are.
This is
where we started. How do we answer the question, who are we?
When we
identify with our true selves we have the instant recognition that we are free
from limitations, that we have spontaneous knowing, and that we exist in a
state of complete fulfilment. Mastering our inner dialogue is an every
day, lifelong development.
In
future posts,I will share about the other relationships that define who we are.
Saturday, November 20, 2021
The New Roaring Twenties
The Time Is Now To Start Your Own Roaring Twenties
Rapid industrial and economic growth, accelerated consumer demand,
and significant new trends in lifestyle and culture.
The unintended consequence of government policy worldwide is a reversal of the economic relationship between those who own assets and balance sheets, and those who are a labor expense line on their profit and loss statements.
During Covid, low wage workers reconsidered their careers. As people making low wages were put out of work by government policy, or decided the risk of facing the virus was not worth their low pay, people began quitting work. While forced to not work by government Covid lockdowns and stay at home, people re-discovered their love of family, hearth, and home. They realised work-life balance is a myth. Being locked up in homes against their will caused them to invest in their homes, home-based business, and mothers who want to homeschool.
In the post war period, government social engineering fuelled the idea that women were not being treated equally and should go to work. Double incomes produce double taxes for government coffers. Women left their children with daycares and government run schools to pursue careers. Covid lockdowns caused a great awakening. Mothers love their children, they love mothering, and they have had enough with fuelling government tax coffers at the expense of family.
Brian Kershisnik Art
The Data
The first chart shows those at the lower end of the income scale will no longer work for low wages. The second chart shows that white collar, professional and business service jobs, are not quitting. Companies with a business model requiring low wage workers are having a very hard time finding workers. This is permanent, not temporary. When governments around the world decided to pick winners and losers, the unintended consequences of putting health over the economy created an 18-month mega shift they cannot control.
The Re-Opening: A New Era Begins
I did quite a bit of reading about the 1918 flu pandemic. As the world cautiously emerged from The Spanish flu, a worse pandemic than Covid, The Roaring Twenties followed. New technologies such as radio and indoor lighting emerged. A new post WWI pandemic world emerged.
In her comments on career plateauing, the late Judith Bardwick put it this way back in this 2013 interview with The Worcester Polytechnic Institute's Robert A. Foisie School of Business:
After World War II, Bardwick said, career advancement seemed limitless, as American industry grew, the birthrate was still fairly low and “those who were committed to success, walked into the most expansionary period of corporate growth in history. "Few people at the time had college degrees, until the federal GI Bill created an opportunity for many, especially men, to graduate from college. At the same time, “companies developed the desire to prevent unionization by employees,” Bardwick said, “and the idea developed that if you treated your employees marvelously well, they would make a commitment; productivity would increase and employee retention would be high.”
So companies gave employees a lifetime commitment and “employees formed the fundamental expectation that there is no limit to what you can become,” she said. “The American dream Bardwick was realized to an extent that could not now be duplicated.” Companies became multi-layered and bureaucratic, creating many more management positions than were needed, but also creating opportunities for promotion. Government programs also multiplied. As the baby boomer generation grew up and the economy hit several recessions, many more employees were competing for fewer high-level jobs. Baby boomers plateaued before they expected, too, since there are only a small number of jobs at the top of corporations.
As economic conditions changed, companies downsized and outsourced. As a result, she said, “everyone has become a business of one. That’s why we must ask ourselves, ’What do I have to offer that someone would want to buy? What can I do that will get someone who pays me closer to their goal?’ ”
Friday, August 11, 2017
How People and Businesses Everywhere Grow
If a person is frustrated, failing, and fearful in life or in their business as an entrepreneur, owner, or manager, I will ask them questions about courage--strength in the face of fear. The presence or absence of courage is the crucial factor that determines whether a person, business, or organization is growing.
How the 4Cs Formula Changed my Life
The 4Cs Formula
I am a lifelong learner, and in my pursuit of growth as a businessman, I had come across Peter Diamandis' "Abundance 360," and his podcast with Dan Sullivan. Dan is founder of an entrepreneurial coaching firm in Toronto which was just 90 minutes form Buffalo, New York where I lived. Dan has a teaching on "The 4Cs," and it changed my life.
Sullivan says, "Nothing starts until you commit to achieving a specific measurable result by a specific date in your future. After you’ve made the commitment, courage is required because you have to take action before you’ve acquired the capability to achieve the result. Capability is actually created because of your commitment and courage. And, finally, confidence is the result of these first three stages."
Commitment--Selling Your Goal to Yourself
Commitment is the cornerstone to building anything. The best way to make a commitment to a goal is to have a starting line, a finish line, and a deadline.
Procrastination Is the Opposite of Commitment
However, not being capable yet of carrying out a commitment is not a reason to kick the can down the road until you are capable. If you make that choice, you will become frustrated, fearful, and failing. Commitment is the first step on the road to growing capabilities.
Next Time: Courage Moves Us Forward
Saturday, April 22, 2017
What is Your Business Mindset?
By Kevin L. Baker, MBA Click here to sign up for Kevin's free "Peak Your Potential" Newsletter |
The Realization of My Personal Business Mindset
Having worked in both entrepreneurial and corporate environments, I know that my greatest happiness and performance at work occurs when I work in an environment where my personal basic business mindset matches that of the organization where I work.
I have realized that I work best in a business environment where the entrepreneur mindset I learned from my father (and genetics) is combined with just enough structure to have efficient and productive systems on board.
The environment you work in is fundamentally either ENTREPRENEUR (E) OR CORPORATE (C). Neither is bad. Just radically different. Are you on the right team? A good match between a person and where they work occurs when you ask, "Am I right for this organization, and is this organization right for me?" The answer is found by looking at the contrasts between the E and C mindset.
The Two Fundamental Business Mindsets Contrasted
Am I an "E" or a "C" in my basic business mindset?
1. Change or Stability
- E sees an environment of change as good and normal. Change makes things better and brings improvement. If there is no change there is no growth. Cs may think things are stable, but stability is an illusion. Markets in the tech age are dynamic and changing. We must learn to live with ambiguity. Nothing is sure forever.
- C sees change as a threat to stability, a risk, and disruptive. Change must be incremental, carefully planned, and managed.
2. Personal or Impersonal
- E remains focused on relationships with customers and clients as the most important thing whether they are truly entrepreneur startups or mature companies. A certain segment of buyers prefer to do business with companies that keep it personal. They do not like being treated as "just a number." If you perceive that quality is always sacrificed for quantity, and that deep relationships with clients and customers are the priority, you are an E.
- C sees a meaningful personal connection as costly. The cost of growth is providing more transactions to more customers or clients. A positive customer experience and lower prices to more people is the best model. While relationships will not be able to be as deep as in an entrepreneurial business, the population of people seeking lower prices is more than those wanting the deep, personal relationship that a small or young business provides.
3. Flexible or Fixed
- E sees being flexible in the approach to business as what it takes to thrive, keep things relevant and interesting so people remain engaged, and the wellspring of continuous improvement.
- C sees a fixed environment as fair, reasonable, and the only way to prevent chaos and division.
4. Do or Study
- E business mindset is to learn by doing. Trial and error will produce iterations which further learning.
- C mindset is to research and study, run focus groups, and require careful project planning to conserve resources by getting it right the first time.
5. Windscreen or Rear-View Mirror
- E business mindset is a focus on where we are right now. To use the analogy of driving a car, the focus is looking forward through the windscreen, not where we have been in the rear-view mirror. Rewards come by being resourceful and producing results right now in the great game of business.
- C business mindset is oriented to "the rear view mirror." It rewards by seniority, loyalty to the company, the status of prior achievement, and how you play the game.
Why Your Business Mindset Matters
If you are an E, you belong on Team E. If you are a C, work on Team C. If you an an E/C then seek to live out your business mindset on Team E/C. Both the person and organization will be happier and more successful by asking, "What's your business mindset?" when job seeking, hiring, and evaluating the growth and performance of a company.
Living in Sydney--A Thriving Entrepreneurship Center
Living in Sydney--A Thriving Entrepreneurship Center
G'day from down under! I have exciting news to share with everyone who follows my blog. First, innovation and startup are a huge part of my professional life, and have now guided me in my personal life to live in one of the world's premiere cities--Sydney, Australia!This city is a thriving center of innovation and entrepreneurship. I have a lot to share with everyone in the USA about what is going on here in the innovation and entrepreneurship space. In coming posts, I will share the many opportunities for Americans wanting to invest or sell products here. First, let me quickly catch you up on me.
Why I am Living in Sydney
Now that I am running an international business with clients in the States and here in Australia (known as Oz here), Sydney is our home base, but we will also spend time in the USA between Buffalo, New York and New Smyrna Beach, Florida.
What I am Doing
- M&A Advisory and business brokering.
- Due diligence services for business buyers.
- Exit and succession strategies for sellers all the way through sale.
- Capital sourcing strategies--Working with existing business owners, startups, and business buyers on business plans; presentation decks for lenders, seed capital, angel investing, and venture capital; and cap tables.
- General management consulting with a focus on strategic growth.
And finally, after 10 years leading a food manufacturing company with sales channels in major grocery stores, I am working on launching a line of "New York Style" branded food products in the market here.
What I am Excited About
I was very excited discovering the "Gather, Innovate, and Grow Engine (GIG Engine) Created by the Centre for Innovation & Entrepreneurship (CIE) and NewSouth Innovations (NSi) at the University of New South Wales (UNSW) in Sydney Australia. Initiatives like this help people like me meet the new people in a new country!
What's New?
Here in Sydney, I am enjoying meeting new people and building a new network. It is a true entrepreneurial work here, and I am loving it.
Keep climbing!